tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post1439610256385487238..comments2023-03-24T05:55:40.206-04:00Comments on ForeverElliotsMommy: It was supposed to be his room....ForeverElliot'sMommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06415623315190480978noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-20207867050045663502010-02-21T20:38:09.863-05:002010-02-21T20:38:09.863-05:00I vary between wanting a baby so bad I can taste i...I vary between wanting a baby so bad I can taste it, to feeling very guilty for wanting a baby so soon. Glad you had a chance to let it all out. I understand, it does make me so petty too...Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04683239109034382788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-54745094421387192122010-02-21T15:41:54.503-05:002010-02-21T15:41:54.503-05:00You're not alone at all! We were very focused ...You're not alone at all! We were very focused on having our rainbow for the many months that we tried except this last one when I ended up pregnant. Go figure! I'm sorry you got another BFN. I hope that very soon your will have your BFP!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-56706822797540411162010-02-18T23:07:59.983-05:002010-02-18T23:07:59.983-05:00No, you are not alone! I'm absolutely obsesse...No, you are not alone! I'm absolutely obsessed with trying for a rainbow baby, and it's gone nowhere for years now. But I have to obsess silently (except on blogland!) because according to nearly everyone, I should be "over it" by now. A rainbow would help so much. Praying we both get one...Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316978989809741699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-29135256356187306832010-02-16T02:12:09.290-05:002010-02-16T02:12:09.290-05:00Brandy I'm so sorry you got a BFN this month. ...Brandy I'm so sorry you got a BFN this month. I know how all consuming it can be to chase that positive. This post said so much of how I feel some days, especially your letter to grief. Sending you hugs and lots of babydust...margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16494588299838654564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-29416685877358684442010-02-15T19:41:30.594-05:002010-02-15T19:41:30.594-05:00I am so sorry about the BFN. That glaring, nasty,...I am so sorry about the BFN. That glaring, nasty, BFN. I definitely get why they gave it that acronym.<br />When we took down the nursery furniture in Aiden and Sophie's room, I never wanted to put anything in there. We ended up doing so, trying to be realistic, but it will always be their room.<br />To be honest with you, from the second I delivered the twins I was pretty consumed with being pregnant again. Not so much in the beginning, but it was always there, nagging me, in the back of my mind. Once we had the go ahead to try, it consumed (and still does) practically every second. It's hard. Really hard. But I am hoping it's all going to be worth it.<br />I will br praying for you to get a BFP very, very soon.<br />Love to you,<br />ChristyChristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01498901545149667223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-16257043177930145042010-02-15T14:58:09.993-05:002010-02-15T14:58:09.993-05:00Brandy, I understand! When we decided that we wer...Brandy, I understand! When we decided that we were trying again I just wanted to be pregnant, it consumed me. We did not try very very long at all, but the short time we did ate us alive. Its a lot of work, and then when you don't get the outcome you want it sucks and is damn hard. I don't know how to stop it...I think what you are doing is healthy and good, focusing on getting healthy. I did that too, not hard enough, didn't loose all my belly that I wanted to and promised myself I would before I got pregnant again. Thinking of you and am here for you!With Out My Punkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18281873659003034133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-75466864643572324232010-02-15T12:55:20.795-05:002010-02-15T12:55:20.795-05:00Baby loss grief is so hard to deal with. My thoug...Baby loss grief is so hard to deal with. My thoughts are with you.<br /><br />I'm not sure how one does not become consumed with having a rainbow baby. It feels like it can not come soon enough.<br /><br />Hang in there and know you have support!CeCehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810772967886741377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-76066316337600485502010-02-14T22:48:59.668-05:002010-02-14T22:48:59.668-05:00Dear grief, give us a break for once.
I know wha...Dear grief, give us a break for once. <br /><br />I know what you mean Brandy, I can't accept it but I have to accepti it, then I can't accept that I want to accept it, blah. WHY?<br /><br />*HUGS*The Sole Sisters Collectivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07246151584628381510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-62949505182497110792010-02-14T22:28:43.338-05:002010-02-14T22:28:43.338-05:00It's hard to see so many people have what you ...It's hard to see so many people have what you lost and so desperately ache for. It's been 4 years this May for me, and I still have yet to attend a baby shower. Except my own, which were both held AFTER the baby was born, alive and healthy.<br /><br />Yes, I was consumed by the idea of a rainbow. But I was also dreading it, since pregnancy is not easy on me (I get VERY sick the ENTIRE time). I didn't find a cure for that until Erin was born and safe, so I have no advice. I'm sorry about the bfn. So I'll be wishing baby dust your way.<br /><br />And I don't know what your religious beliefs are, but I have loved this quote on grief:<br />"First, please know that grief is the natural by-product of love. One cannot selflessly love another person and not grieve at his suffering or eventual death. The only way to avoid the grief would be to not experience the love; and it is love that gives life its richness and meaning. Hence, what a grieving parent can expect to receive from the Lord in response to earnest supplication may not necessarily be an elimination of grief so much as a sweet reassurance that, whatever his or her circumstances, one’s child is in the tender care of a loving Heavenly Father."<br />~Lance B. WickmanBrittaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09163482845611038936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6999892652000718566.post-5348498753234804782010-02-14T21:29:19.859-05:002010-02-14T21:29:19.859-05:00so many hugs being sent your way. I could have wri...so many hugs being sent your way. I could have written this very same post. I could write a very nasty letter to grief but it sure wouldnt be pretty, thats for sure.<br />As for a rainbow... yup.. I never thought it would consume me in the ways it has. I think it's because our dream was ripped from us so fast, and now we crave it even more. We all know we cant have what we really want (Elliot & Nolan back in our arms) so the next best thing is a sister or brother. wouldn't it be nice if God would just give in and give it to us faster?Ashley Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02156590541468931197noreply@blogger.com